Back to School: What If I’m Feeling Nervous?

Going back to school after the summer holidays can feel strange. And if you’re starting a completely new school, it can feel like an even bigger deal.

You might be thinking:

What if I get lost? What if I don’t make friends? What if the work is too hard? What if everyone else seems more confident than me?

If your brain is full of “what ifs” you’re definitely not alone.

Why do I feel like this?

Our brains tend to prefer things that are familiar and predictable. Starting a new school or even returning after a long break involves lots of unknowns.

Anxiety is your brain trying to prepare you for something it thinks might be difficult. You might notice butterflies, difficulty sleeping, a racing heart, feeling irritable or even wanting to avoid school altogether.

The important thing to remember is:

Feeling nervous doesn’t mean you can’t cope. You don’t have to feel confident first.  We sometimes think we need to wait until we feel confident before doing something difficult. Usually, it works the other way around.  Confidence develops when we do something despite feeling nervous and discover:

“That was difficult, but I managed it.”

The first time you walk into a new school might feel overwhelming. A few weeks later, finding your classroom may be something you don't even think about.

Take it one step at a time

Try not to solve the whole school year in your head.

Focus on the next small step for example,

• Get your things ready the night before.
• Find out where you need to go when you arrive.
• Ask someone if you're unsure.
• Say hello to one person.
• Get through your first lesson.

You don't need to have an amazing first day. You just need to get through one bit at a time.

And don't judge your whole school experience by the first few days. Friendships, routines and confidence can all take time.

If anxiety is becoming overwhelming or stopping you from going to school or doing things you usually do, talk to an adult you trust.

Most importantly, remember:

You don't need to feel ready before you start. Sometimes doing the scary thing is how we begin to feel ready.

Please get in touch if you would like more information.